 Couples often argue about a past occurrence without realizing that they are, in a sense, in two different arguments. One person may have been impacted by their partner’s actions (or lack of action) in the given situation and is talking about the IMPACT, while the other person who committed the transgression is explaining their INTENT.
Both impact and intent can be important pieces to discuss in the aftermath of a conflict or disagreement. However, because there is no formal announcement/agreement about which part they are addressing, the discussion becomes unclear to both parties. The effect of the lack of clarity here is that the impact explainer is seen by the intent explainer as ‘attacking them’ or saying they are bad. The intent explainer is seen by the impact explainer as ‘making excuses’ or minimizing.
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